They say the key is to always stay busy- don't give yourself too much to think, to wonder, to plan or fear or go crazy. The mind is an unruly thing, best not to let it run too wild.
They say the pain is there to be felt- to be observed, tracked, understood. that's where growth comes from. That's where the change happens.
They say that simple distractions have their place and in fact a good measure of self love. It's kinder, gentler to be easy on yourself. Change the world later, have a revolution later.
They say that the details can keep you moving when you'd otherwise get stuck. Paperwork, e-mails, bills, appointments, to-do lists and chores. These little signs of normalcy, these little reminders that life does go on, everyday. It keeps you chugging along and it's good.
They say not to overload yourself too much. You're not gonna be at the top of your game, and that's ok. You're allowed to take a break, you're allowed to not be on top of everything. Consider how much energy you have to give and reserve some for just surviving.
They say that time heals all wounds. The craziness will pass. The pain will dull. Life will take whatever shape it's going to take and then all of this will make sense. Someday, someday.
They say so many things, so many pieces of advice, so many words of wisdom, so much hard-won knowledge. But I find that sometimes the best thing, the most comforting, the most warm, the most loving- is saying nothing at all, but just listening.