Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All
of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of
addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves
no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story
is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found
recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
Suddenly
a din arose from the corner of the large room and everyone turned in
their seats to watch the commotion. The couple from the casino who had
been arguing were now in a full-on fight and the man banging his fist on
the table had sent a glass and plate off the edge.
The
four men watched awkwardly as the woman began to cry, her tears
landing in the wavy hair nearly covering her face and glistening in the
dim light from overhead. It was a universal truth that seeing a woman
cry undid the most unbreakable facade and not one of them knew how to
respond though all felt the need to end her state.
Greg clenched his
fists, wanting to punch the man sitting across from her who, for his
part, seemed lost with his his hands continuously running across his scalp as if trying to wring her emotion out of his hair. Ted swallowed hard and hated himself for not knowing what to do. Stew just stared, unabashed at his rubbernecking. Scott hesitated for a moment, and then got up from the booth and walked across the room.
The three men watched him go with utter shock on their faces.
Scott
arrived at the same time as the waitress and waved away her protests as
he started picking up the broken pieces and loading them onto the
plastic tray she'd brought. He joked with her as he loaded the shards
and even though the three of them couldn't make out his words they
watched her nervous laughter. The man at the table busied himself digging in his wallet for cash, pretending to not even
notice the two people kneeling on the floor next to him. The woman, now
looking up from her damp hair, had a look of disdain on her face and
the scowl set into her jaw showed lines in her cheeks put there by an
expression used too often.
"Well, I'll be damned," Ted said, awe in his voice.
Scott
stood as the last of the shattered remains were collected and walked
with the young waitress back to the counter. Behind him the man stood
and huffed an angry command for the woman to follow. Greg stood as the man walked past him and hesitated on the verge of a really bad decision but Stew held him back, a careful hand grabbing the corner of his jacket and holding it firmly. The man was ignorant of his rage and proceeded to the small counter where he paid the bill as the woman slowly collected her coat and
followed, moving like a wilted flower. The three of them watched the
couple leave and with them left a weight that hung on each of them since
failing to respond.
"What
the hell is wrong with us? Are we just too old and cynical now that we
can't get up and help?" Ted asked aloud, anger in his voice. "Are we
too damned embittered to get off our asses and do something selfless?"
"I
wouldn't rush too quickly to judge yourself, there," Stew warned and
pointed towards their young fellow who was still standing with the
waitress.
Now that she was standing close by they could see her face- the arched eyebrows, the triangular chin, the long neck declining into cleavage visible through the deep v-neck of her black t-shirt. Her
nervous laughter had subsided into a lilting chuckle and her head tilt
let them know the conversation was more than friendly. Scott was
animatedly telling her some story which conveniently involved him
flashing his best smile. An exaggerated gesture brought his hand into contact with her shoulder first by accident and then purposefully with a quick apology. He let it linger there and she did nothing to dissuade the touch.
"That's not good," Ted said, staring at the scene.
"You gotta forgive yourself, man," Stew was saying to Greg, worried eyes on the man who now sat dejected.
"Forgive myself?" he started, the rage boiling up again.
Stew gave him a steady gaze, like staring down an agitated child, and then softened as Greg let out a sigh.
"You know we all got demons, but that habit of yours is gonna lead you to into more," he said, a pat on Greg's back following.
Greg shrugged the gesture away but nodded, soothed for the moment.
"Hee, hee, hee- look what I got," Scott announced as he neared them, showing off the phone number he'd just obtained from the pretty girl who had retreated into the kitchen with a smile.
Ted made a quick motion and snatched the paper out of the young man's hands, leaving him balking.
"What the hell?"
"Nope, not a good idea," Ted said, jamming the paper into his pocket before Scott could make a grab for it.
"Are you freakin' kidding me?" Scott asked, indignant.
"Haven't you ever heard the expression 'don't shit where you eat'?" Stew asked, throwing cash on the table to serve as the tip.
"Yeah, so?" Scott asked as Ted made a shooing motion for him to move.
"So, it applies," Ted said as he slid himself over to stand.
"How?"
"You're not in any shape to give that poor girl anything but grief, just leave it be," Stew said, taking him by the sleeve and leading him towards the door.
"But..." Scott protested, but it was a lifeless dissent.
"We all got our habits we gotta break, man," Greg said as he followed, exhaustion in his voice. "Just let it go."
Thursday, April 9, 2015
Wednesday, April 8, 2015
G is for Gratitude
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
A sharp noise distracted the men and a glance at the corner let them know that the couple from the casino were now arguing openly. Animated hang gestures from the man punctuated the woman's high-pitched words, most of which weren't audible above the sounds of the diner.
"Makes me sick," Greg said as he watched them, the anger that had been there previously edging his voice with a promise of more to come.
"Yeah, well, we should probably be going anyway. Work don't start any later the days after nights like these," Ted said, giving a warning eye to Stew. They both knew Greg always got a little unsteady when he talked too much about himself and that seemed to be bubbling up to the surface now.
"See you at the gratitude meeting on Sunday?" he asked as he nodded at Scott to move.
"Yeah, yeah- wait, though. What's that all about?" Scott asked, a knee up on the bench as he paused.
"What's what all about?" Ted answered, slightly weary.
"The whole gratitude thing?"
"Boy, you is just full of questions tonight, ain't ya?" Greg observed.
"I'm 'sposed to be learning, right?" Scott asked, taking another fry from the plate. He seemed intent on finishing them all, and Ted had given up on eating a while ago anyway.
"Gratitude is an action that gets you where you want to be in recovery- whether it's happier or content or whatever," Ted said, re-energized by the question. So long as he didn't have to talk more about his character defects he could be a little late getting home.
"How is it an action?" Scott asked, another fry slipping in.
"Well, you say thank you, right?" Stew asked.
"That's not it, though. Nothing's ever that easy. Like I'm not doing step one just because I say I'm an addict."
"In a way you are. I mean, yeah, it's a smaller version of a bigger concept but that's the basis of it. Say you're an addict and you make your way towards acceptance. Say thank you and you make your towards gratitude," Stew said, an eye glancing at Greg who had returned to watching the corner where the couple continued their heated discussion.
"So it's a state of being, sort-of?" Scott asked.
"Sort-of, but you know we can't control what we are other than by controlling what we do. So practicing gratitude is what makes you grateful- the action, you know?" Ted asked. The look on Scott's face let him know he didn't.
"So, if I think about everything- my son not calling me back, and how damned early I have to get up for work in the morning, and how much a friggin' cup of coffee costs now," Ted explained, raising the mug as a reference point, "I can get totally overwhelmed and want to drink. But if I thank my higher power that I still even have the chance to call my son and pay for this cup of coffee which I can drink and enjoy because all my hard living somehow didn't kill me then I'm no so overwhelmed and I can live my life one day at a time, you see?"
Stew placed both hands palm down on the table and took an exaggerated breath in, his chest puffing outward as he did. "The air you breathe," he exhaled, then pointed at Scott who was holding the last french fry, now cold and soggy. "The food you eat."
"The roof over your head," Ted added, a hand waving at the ceiling above them.
"The fact that I ain't that sorry piece of shit," Greg growled, still distracted by the couple in the corner.
Stew shot a look at him which he didn't see and then looked to Ted and nodded the need for their departure. "Just go to the gratitude meeting on Sunday- it'll start to make sense."
"Yeah, ok," Scott said, slightly discouraged. Then he stopped, face lighting as he realized. "Hey, thanks for the fries!"
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
A sharp noise distracted the men and a glance at the corner let them know that the couple from the casino were now arguing openly. Animated hang gestures from the man punctuated the woman's high-pitched words, most of which weren't audible above the sounds of the diner.
"Makes me sick," Greg said as he watched them, the anger that had been there previously edging his voice with a promise of more to come.
"Yeah, well, we should probably be going anyway. Work don't start any later the days after nights like these," Ted said, giving a warning eye to Stew. They both knew Greg always got a little unsteady when he talked too much about himself and that seemed to be bubbling up to the surface now.
"See you at the gratitude meeting on Sunday?" he asked as he nodded at Scott to move.
"Yeah, yeah- wait, though. What's that all about?" Scott asked, a knee up on the bench as he paused.
"What's what all about?" Ted answered, slightly weary.
"The whole gratitude thing?"
"Boy, you is just full of questions tonight, ain't ya?" Greg observed.
"I'm 'sposed to be learning, right?" Scott asked, taking another fry from the plate. He seemed intent on finishing them all, and Ted had given up on eating a while ago anyway.
"Gratitude is an action that gets you where you want to be in recovery- whether it's happier or content or whatever," Ted said, re-energized by the question. So long as he didn't have to talk more about his character defects he could be a little late getting home.
"How is it an action?" Scott asked, another fry slipping in.
"Well, you say thank you, right?" Stew asked.
"That's not it, though. Nothing's ever that easy. Like I'm not doing step one just because I say I'm an addict."
"In a way you are. I mean, yeah, it's a smaller version of a bigger concept but that's the basis of it. Say you're an addict and you make your way towards acceptance. Say thank you and you make your towards gratitude," Stew said, an eye glancing at Greg who had returned to watching the corner where the couple continued their heated discussion.
"So it's a state of being, sort-of?" Scott asked.
"Sort-of, but you know we can't control what we are other than by controlling what we do. So practicing gratitude is what makes you grateful- the action, you know?" Ted asked. The look on Scott's face let him know he didn't.
"So, if I think about everything- my son not calling me back, and how damned early I have to get up for work in the morning, and how much a friggin' cup of coffee costs now," Ted explained, raising the mug as a reference point, "I can get totally overwhelmed and want to drink. But if I thank my higher power that I still even have the chance to call my son and pay for this cup of coffee which I can drink and enjoy because all my hard living somehow didn't kill me then I'm no so overwhelmed and I can live my life one day at a time, you see?"
Stew placed both hands palm down on the table and took an exaggerated breath in, his chest puffing outward as he did. "The air you breathe," he exhaled, then pointed at Scott who was holding the last french fry, now cold and soggy. "The food you eat."
"The roof over your head," Ted added, a hand waving at the ceiling above them.
"The fact that I ain't that sorry piece of shit," Greg growled, still distracted by the couple in the corner.
Stew shot a look at him which he didn't see and then looked to Ted and nodded the need for their departure. "Just go to the gratitude meeting on Sunday- it'll start to make sense."
"Yeah, ok," Scott said, slightly discouraged. Then he stopped, face lighting as he realized. "Hey, thanks for the fries!"
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
F is for Fellowship
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"I get that," Greg said, his eyes showing that same far-off gaze that had been going around the faces of the table as they talked.
The men turned their heads to listen, knowing more was to come.
"I wasn't there for my boys, either. Not for them, not for their mom, not for nobody. The only time I showed up was to sleep, shower and grab some more money so I could be off rippin' an runnin' again." Greg paused, took a sip of coffee with a loud slurp, and resumed. "Adele, she tried to get me to stop. She'd drag me to church and they'd be all prayin' for me and shit. She'd hide the money and try to lock everything up so I couldn't steal nothin'."
"Yeah, my parents did the same thing," Scott added, grateful for the common ground.
"But you know how it is. We always find a way."
"So did you ever try to make amends?" Scott asked, a slightly hopeful sound in his voice.
"Not at first," Greg said, a slight grimace coming over his face. "I was too busy relapsing for a long time to do anything more than make promises I wasn't keepin'. You know how we do- you feel a little better and you think you can take on the world. All that pink cloud shit."
"Pink cloud?" Scott asked, looking around at the other men whose expressions showed no surprise at the term.
"It's how we describe that warm, fuzzy feeling in early recovery," Stew answered. "You know you get out of rehab and you feel a little better, physically. You get some money in the bank cause you're not spending it all on dope, you can look people in the eye because you're not lying to them. Stuff like that."
"And then, life comes along and throws some shit at you that you weren't prepared for and you tell yourself you can't do it. Ain't no way you gettin' through whatever it is without using, so you do," Greg said, anger creeping into his voice. The white hairs sprouting from his temples stood out as his brow furrowed at the memories. "Then people start gettin' angry. Adele'd be throwin' me out, Jaylen- that's my oldest- he stopped talkin' to me, stopped believin' when I said I'd be goin' to his ball games. I think he told Darnell and Elijah I wouldn't be comin' to they birthday parties so they'd stop bein' surprised when I didn't show up. After that, people stop comin' to see you when you end up in rehab again. You gotta do it on your own," Greg said, concluding what was, like all of theirs, a much longer story.
"Shit," Scott said, that fear coming over his face again.
"That's how it works, though," Ted said, bumping his shoulder up against the boy in a consolatory manner. "Whether you got people on your side or not it's always you doing it on your own."
"Well, not entirely on your own," Stew said with a chastising grin. "You do it with the fellowship."
"Cause ain't nobody else gonna understand your sorry ass like a bunch of other sorry asses," Greg laughed, suddenly joking and friendly again. It was as if something had passed through him en route to somewhere else. Something that wasn't his normal self.
Scott for his part didn't entirely know what to make of it and his puzzled expression let the others know it.
"The serious talking- that's not easy. Hell, that's half the reason I drank- so I wouldn't have to do the serious talking. Shootin' the breeze and telling jokes- that's what we all want to be doing," Stew said, deciphering it all for the young one.
"So I get to the meetings so I can do both, with a bunch of other scew-ups like me. And not be judged and not be saved- just be understood," Greg concluded.
"There's always a method to the madness," Ted smiled.
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"I get that," Greg said, his eyes showing that same far-off gaze that had been going around the faces of the table as they talked.
The men turned their heads to listen, knowing more was to come.
"I wasn't there for my boys, either. Not for them, not for their mom, not for nobody. The only time I showed up was to sleep, shower and grab some more money so I could be off rippin' an runnin' again." Greg paused, took a sip of coffee with a loud slurp, and resumed. "Adele, she tried to get me to stop. She'd drag me to church and they'd be all prayin' for me and shit. She'd hide the money and try to lock everything up so I couldn't steal nothin'."
"Yeah, my parents did the same thing," Scott added, grateful for the common ground.
"But you know how it is. We always find a way."
"So did you ever try to make amends?" Scott asked, a slightly hopeful sound in his voice.
"Not at first," Greg said, a slight grimace coming over his face. "I was too busy relapsing for a long time to do anything more than make promises I wasn't keepin'. You know how we do- you feel a little better and you think you can take on the world. All that pink cloud shit."
"Pink cloud?" Scott asked, looking around at the other men whose expressions showed no surprise at the term.
"It's how we describe that warm, fuzzy feeling in early recovery," Stew answered. "You know you get out of rehab and you feel a little better, physically. You get some money in the bank cause you're not spending it all on dope, you can look people in the eye because you're not lying to them. Stuff like that."
"And then, life comes along and throws some shit at you that you weren't prepared for and you tell yourself you can't do it. Ain't no way you gettin' through whatever it is without using, so you do," Greg said, anger creeping into his voice. The white hairs sprouting from his temples stood out as his brow furrowed at the memories. "Then people start gettin' angry. Adele'd be throwin' me out, Jaylen- that's my oldest- he stopped talkin' to me, stopped believin' when I said I'd be goin' to his ball games. I think he told Darnell and Elijah I wouldn't be comin' to they birthday parties so they'd stop bein' surprised when I didn't show up. After that, people stop comin' to see you when you end up in rehab again. You gotta do it on your own," Greg said, concluding what was, like all of theirs, a much longer story.
"Shit," Scott said, that fear coming over his face again.
"That's how it works, though," Ted said, bumping his shoulder up against the boy in a consolatory manner. "Whether you got people on your side or not it's always you doing it on your own."
"Well, not entirely on your own," Stew said with a chastising grin. "You do it with the fellowship."
"Cause ain't nobody else gonna understand your sorry ass like a bunch of other sorry asses," Greg laughed, suddenly joking and friendly again. It was as if something had passed through him en route to somewhere else. Something that wasn't his normal self.
Scott for his part didn't entirely know what to make of it and his puzzled expression let the others know it.
"The serious talking- that's not easy. Hell, that's half the reason I drank- so I wouldn't have to do the serious talking. Shootin' the breeze and telling jokes- that's what we all want to be doing," Stew said, deciphering it all for the young one.
"So I get to the meetings so I can do both, with a bunch of other scew-ups like me. And not be judged and not be saved- just be understood," Greg concluded.
"There's always a method to the madness," Ted smiled.
Monday, April 6, 2015
E is for Effort
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"So what, you just call and call and call- forever?" Scott asked, trying to turn the conversation onto someone else. He found that people were all too willing to focus on him, the 'newcomer', and he couldn't take too much of it without squirming.
"Ask him," Ted said, nodding at Stew.
Stew went to respond, then shut his mouth and nodded back at him. "What do you think?"
"I think this shit's hard," Ted said, sighing again.
He surveyed the room again, a favorite past time. The late night crowd varied widely from the patronage of Sunday morning. He could tell that some of the customers had recently come from the casino and the sounds of their complaint about the house rigging everything let him know they'd lost. One particular couple in the corner had the look of desperation on them- that slightly frenzied expression of the eyes as they darted around the menu pages beholding prices that now seemed entirely too steep.
"There should be more GA meetings around here," he observed.
"You're doing it again," Stew said.
"What?"
"Stalling."
"Man, he rides you hard, don't he?" Greg said, smiling a smile that let Ted know he was enjoying watching him suffer.
"I guess..." he hesitated, watching the man sitting at the counter struggle to pull coins out of his pocket. "I guess it's about the effort. You know, in our addictions we were willing to do anything- didn't matter what- to get our booze or our whatever. We'd screw people over, lie to anybody, move heaven and earth."
"Neither rain, sleet, snow nor hail," Greg joked.
"I guess the effort we put into that can't be more than the effort we're willing to put into trying to repair some of that damage."
The table went quiet as everyone suddenly became very interested in something other than the conversation. Ted went back to observing the couple who were now bickering in a way that edged on harsher words. Greg stirred his coffee and watched the brown liquid swirl in cup. Stew stared off into nothing, contemplating the weight of his sponsee's words.
Scott had a haunted look about him, his eyes moving back into the past and observing something unseen by the rest of them. A grimace flew across his face and before it could settle he returned the focus to Ted. "What happened anyway? I mean, why's he so mad at you?"
Ted sighed again, the honesty tiring him. "Lets just sum it by saying that when his mom died I crawled into a bottle chasing what I'd lost. That kid suffered a lot from that, more than a few unreturned phone calls worth."
"So you keep calling," Stew said, a nod letting Ted know he'd done good.
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"So what, you just call and call and call- forever?" Scott asked, trying to turn the conversation onto someone else. He found that people were all too willing to focus on him, the 'newcomer', and he couldn't take too much of it without squirming.
"Ask him," Ted said, nodding at Stew.
Stew went to respond, then shut his mouth and nodded back at him. "What do you think?"
"I think this shit's hard," Ted said, sighing again.
He surveyed the room again, a favorite past time. The late night crowd varied widely from the patronage of Sunday morning. He could tell that some of the customers had recently come from the casino and the sounds of their complaint about the house rigging everything let him know they'd lost. One particular couple in the corner had the look of desperation on them- that slightly frenzied expression of the eyes as they darted around the menu pages beholding prices that now seemed entirely too steep.
"There should be more GA meetings around here," he observed.
"You're doing it again," Stew said.
"What?"
"Stalling."
"Man, he rides you hard, don't he?" Greg said, smiling a smile that let Ted know he was enjoying watching him suffer.
"I guess..." he hesitated, watching the man sitting at the counter struggle to pull coins out of his pocket. "I guess it's about the effort. You know, in our addictions we were willing to do anything- didn't matter what- to get our booze or our whatever. We'd screw people over, lie to anybody, move heaven and earth."
"Neither rain, sleet, snow nor hail," Greg joked.
"I guess the effort we put into that can't be more than the effort we're willing to put into trying to repair some of that damage."
The table went quiet as everyone suddenly became very interested in something other than the conversation. Ted went back to observing the couple who were now bickering in a way that edged on harsher words. Greg stirred his coffee and watched the brown liquid swirl in cup. Stew stared off into nothing, contemplating the weight of his sponsee's words.
Scott had a haunted look about him, his eyes moving back into the past and observing something unseen by the rest of them. A grimace flew across his face and before it could settle he returned the focus to Ted. "What happened anyway? I mean, why's he so mad at you?"
Ted sighed again, the honesty tiring him. "Lets just sum it by saying that when his mom died I crawled into a bottle chasing what I'd lost. That kid suffered a lot from that, more than a few unreturned phone calls worth."
"So you keep calling," Stew said, a nod letting Ted know he'd done good.
Saturday, April 4, 2015
D is for Direction
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
Another Tuesday night, another beginner's meeting, another argument. It was all too familiar and yet, not. Reality was always in attendance, chasing away the tedium.
"So if part of why I used in the first place was to say a big 'F you' to whoever then why am I willingly engaging in a program in which I'm constantly being told what to do?" Scott asked, showing a fry into the corner of his mouth. He'd taken to grazing food off the plates of whoever had ordered. And because they were older, or because they had money enough, or because they felt sorry for him- or perhaps because of all these reasons- they'd let him.
"It's 'in which I'm constantly being told of what I should do'. I think..." Stew corrected him, then furrowed his brows as he questioned himself.
"Don't be a grammar Nazi," Ted dismissed him. "at any rate, the whole thing's that we addicts don't take very good care of ourselves. Left to our own devices, we self destruct."
"And when you let another person in, they almost always want better for you than you want for yourself. So they gonna give you better directions," Greg said, clasping the straw he was sucking on between clenched teeth.
"How do you do that?" Scott asked, bewildered. He'd been seeing it more and more since he'd been hitting the meetings daily, and it bugged him.
"Do what?"
"Just, freakin', saying what each others thinking all the time- shut up!" he pointed a threatening finger at Stew before he had the chance of correcting him.
Stew closed his mouth which was poised to revise and smiled.
"It's all the same," Greg laughed. "You hit enough of these things, you get used to the lingo." The young man adjusted himself, his strong shoulders raising his butt above the bench and then placing him back down. His dark skin stood out against the silver color, making him stand out even more than he already did as a black man in a predominantly white town in suburban Pennsylvania.
"When I first started, I accused everybody of trying to recruit me for a cult," Ted said, a wry smile on his face as he recalled his angry protest.
"Good times," Stew laughed.
"The dogma, the stupid phrases they say over and over again like 'H.A.L.T. or K.I.S.S. or one day at a time- it all actually means something," Greg continued, unaffected by the interruption.
"And here's the one we're on now," Stew said, taking the cue, "Good. Orderly. Direction. Listening to somebody who has your best interest at heart, in spite of wanting to tell everybody to shut the hell up. That's the program."
"Take me for example," Ted chimed in, "I'm calling my son over and over again like an all-out stalker just because this guy's telling me to. Because I trust that he knows what he's talking about" he said, waving a hand at Stew.
"He's still not answering?" Stew asked.
"I assume he's screening the calls."
"This is your step work?" Scott asked.
"Yeah. You're young, though. You'll have a better time of it- less damage done in a shorter lifespan. All the more reason to get a hang of this thing before you end up like one of us."
"And why am I taking advice from you old guys, again, if this is what your experience has brought you to?" Scott asked. He couldn't help but taunt the men, it was too fun.
"Because they know what they're talking 'bout," Greg said, his eyebrow raised. "Respect your elders."
"Besides, look at how well it's served you so far," Ted said, turning his hand to him as if he were a model posing next to a sports car. "Wearin' t-shirts, putting on weight- you almost look human again."
"Plus, it is a little easier to just do what somebody tells you to," Stew said. "The hard part comes later when you have to actually live your life."
"You people don't help with that stuff?" Scott said, feigning shock.
"Nope," Ted said, "sure don't."
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
Another Tuesday night, another beginner's meeting, another argument. It was all too familiar and yet, not. Reality was always in attendance, chasing away the tedium.
"So if part of why I used in the first place was to say a big 'F you' to whoever then why am I willingly engaging in a program in which I'm constantly being told what to do?" Scott asked, showing a fry into the corner of his mouth. He'd taken to grazing food off the plates of whoever had ordered. And because they were older, or because they had money enough, or because they felt sorry for him- or perhaps because of all these reasons- they'd let him.
"It's 'in which I'm constantly being told of what I should do'. I think..." Stew corrected him, then furrowed his brows as he questioned himself.
"Don't be a grammar Nazi," Ted dismissed him. "at any rate, the whole thing's that we addicts don't take very good care of ourselves. Left to our own devices, we self destruct."
"And when you let another person in, they almost always want better for you than you want for yourself. So they gonna give you better directions," Greg said, clasping the straw he was sucking on between clenched teeth.
"How do you do that?" Scott asked, bewildered. He'd been seeing it more and more since he'd been hitting the meetings daily, and it bugged him.
"Do what?"
"Just, freakin', saying what each others thinking all the time- shut up!" he pointed a threatening finger at Stew before he had the chance of correcting him.
Stew closed his mouth which was poised to revise and smiled.
"It's all the same," Greg laughed. "You hit enough of these things, you get used to the lingo." The young man adjusted himself, his strong shoulders raising his butt above the bench and then placing him back down. His dark skin stood out against the silver color, making him stand out even more than he already did as a black man in a predominantly white town in suburban Pennsylvania.
"When I first started, I accused everybody of trying to recruit me for a cult," Ted said, a wry smile on his face as he recalled his angry protest.
"Good times," Stew laughed.
"The dogma, the stupid phrases they say over and over again like 'H.A.L.T. or K.I.S.S. or one day at a time- it all actually means something," Greg continued, unaffected by the interruption.
"And here's the one we're on now," Stew said, taking the cue, "Good. Orderly. Direction. Listening to somebody who has your best interest at heart, in spite of wanting to tell everybody to shut the hell up. That's the program."
"Take me for example," Ted chimed in, "I'm calling my son over and over again like an all-out stalker just because this guy's telling me to. Because I trust that he knows what he's talking about" he said, waving a hand at Stew.
"He's still not answering?" Stew asked.
"I assume he's screening the calls."
"This is your step work?" Scott asked.
"Yeah. You're young, though. You'll have a better time of it- less damage done in a shorter lifespan. All the more reason to get a hang of this thing before you end up like one of us."
"And why am I taking advice from you old guys, again, if this is what your experience has brought you to?" Scott asked. He couldn't help but taunt the men, it was too fun.
"Because they know what they're talking 'bout," Greg said, his eyebrow raised. "Respect your elders."
"Besides, look at how well it's served you so far," Ted said, turning his hand to him as if he were a model posing next to a sports car. "Wearin' t-shirts, putting on weight- you almost look human again."
"Plus, it is a little easier to just do what somebody tells you to," Stew said. "The hard part comes later when you have to actually live your life."
"You people don't help with that stuff?" Scott said, feigning shock.
"Nope," Ted said, "sure don't."
Friday, April 3, 2015
C is for the Call
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"Worried about that kid, he don't look good," Ted said as he brought the cup to his lips and sipped.
"Don't try to change the subject," Stew said, folding his arms at him.
Ted sighed and put the cup down. "He don't want to talk to me."
"You don't know unless you try."
Ted looked around the room, watching the family just coming in from church being seated by a smiling waitress as the counter-sitters gathered their coats to clear out before the rush started. "Change of shift," he smirked.
"Talk to me," Stew said, and tapped his finger on the table in an accusatory manner. "This is the work, Ted. You know you don't get a pass on this."
"Ok, geez," Ted grumbled, and shifted in the seat. "Isn't there a loophole to this one? That whole 'unless it would hurt them' or some shit?"
"It's 'except when to do so would injure them or others', yeah- but that's not what this is."
"You're a regular encyclopedia, aren't you?"
"It's the big book, not the encyclopedia and you know it just as well as I do." Stew gave him a stern look and waited.
Ted tore up the empty sugar packet he'd been turning over in his fingers and threw it on the plate with drying ketchup and half-finished hash browns. He opened his mouth to speak, another protest making its way out and then stopped, sighing.
"He's your son. He needs you," Stew added, gently.
"Needed, past tense. It does him no goddamned good for me to be there now. What the hell would I even say, anyway? 'Hey, it's your dad. Sorry I been a fall-down drunk your whole life but I stopped shoving booze down my throat and I thought we could, oh, I-don't-know, hang out'? Yeah." His voice had an almost sing-song quality to it which made the whole announcement that much more acrid.
"Anger's good. Anger'll push you where you need to be pushed. You just gotta use it," Stew said. "Be pissed at yourself for getting here and use it to get yourself out."
"You say it like it's so goddamned simple," Ted said, and leaned his head into his hand, rubbing his temples.
"Simple? You want me to tell you about my ex-wife again?" he asked, raising a bushy eyebrow at him.
"No, no- I get it." He leaned back against the bench and watched the family that had come in. A young boy with skinny arms was holding a glass of milk with his two hands, blowing bubbles with the straw. The knobby elbows on the table were his, but the action was all too familiar.
Suddenly the memory hit him like a blow. Life-times ago when he was still spending most of his days at the bottom of a bottle. He'd heard the bubble pop and lashed out, his hangover-induced migraine making the sound grind in his ear drums.
"Knock it off," he'd yelled, and swung an arm at the glass. It flew out of the small hands and slid off the table, the glass shattering on the floor.
Cole- only a child then- had looked at him with wide, frightened eyes, stunned by the sudden attack.
Ted had watched as the tears started to form. He hated himself too much to give in, so he'd yelled some more, demanding he clean it up. Cole had slid off the chair and knelt over the mess, his tiny fingers gripping the piece of glass and cradling it in his hands as he tiptoed to the garbage. He'd sat there, watching him and hating him for looking so much like his mother as he moved.
"Where'd you go?" Stew asked, jarring him out of it. He looked into his eyes with that earnest gaze of his and Ted wilted.
"I don't see how he can possibly forgive me," Ted said, his voice soft and tired.
"You're not asking for forgiveness. You're offering an apology. There's a difference." Stew stopped, noticing the growing din as more people filed in. "We better go."
He dug out his wallet and threw another bill on the table. "Just call him," he said, giving his best directive depth of tone.
Ted nodded at him.
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"Worried about that kid, he don't look good," Ted said as he brought the cup to his lips and sipped.
"Don't try to change the subject," Stew said, folding his arms at him.
Ted sighed and put the cup down. "He don't want to talk to me."
"You don't know unless you try."
Ted looked around the room, watching the family just coming in from church being seated by a smiling waitress as the counter-sitters gathered their coats to clear out before the rush started. "Change of shift," he smirked.
"Talk to me," Stew said, and tapped his finger on the table in an accusatory manner. "This is the work, Ted. You know you don't get a pass on this."
"Ok, geez," Ted grumbled, and shifted in the seat. "Isn't there a loophole to this one? That whole 'unless it would hurt them' or some shit?"
"It's 'except when to do so would injure them or others', yeah- but that's not what this is."
"You're a regular encyclopedia, aren't you?"
"It's the big book, not the encyclopedia and you know it just as well as I do." Stew gave him a stern look and waited.
Ted tore up the empty sugar packet he'd been turning over in his fingers and threw it on the plate with drying ketchup and half-finished hash browns. He opened his mouth to speak, another protest making its way out and then stopped, sighing.
"He's your son. He needs you," Stew added, gently.
"Needed, past tense. It does him no goddamned good for me to be there now. What the hell would I even say, anyway? 'Hey, it's your dad. Sorry I been a fall-down drunk your whole life but I stopped shoving booze down my throat and I thought we could, oh, I-don't-know, hang out'? Yeah." His voice had an almost sing-song quality to it which made the whole announcement that much more acrid.
"Anger's good. Anger'll push you where you need to be pushed. You just gotta use it," Stew said. "Be pissed at yourself for getting here and use it to get yourself out."
"You say it like it's so goddamned simple," Ted said, and leaned his head into his hand, rubbing his temples.
"Simple? You want me to tell you about my ex-wife again?" he asked, raising a bushy eyebrow at him.
"No, no- I get it." He leaned back against the bench and watched the family that had come in. A young boy with skinny arms was holding a glass of milk with his two hands, blowing bubbles with the straw. The knobby elbows on the table were his, but the action was all too familiar.
Suddenly the memory hit him like a blow. Life-times ago when he was still spending most of his days at the bottom of a bottle. He'd heard the bubble pop and lashed out, his hangover-induced migraine making the sound grind in his ear drums.
"Knock it off," he'd yelled, and swung an arm at the glass. It flew out of the small hands and slid off the table, the glass shattering on the floor.
Cole- only a child then- had looked at him with wide, frightened eyes, stunned by the sudden attack.
Ted had watched as the tears started to form. He hated himself too much to give in, so he'd yelled some more, demanding he clean it up. Cole had slid off the chair and knelt over the mess, his tiny fingers gripping the piece of glass and cradling it in his hands as he tiptoed to the garbage. He'd sat there, watching him and hating him for looking so much like his mother as he moved.
"Where'd you go?" Stew asked, jarring him out of it. He looked into his eyes with that earnest gaze of his and Ted wilted.
"I don't see how he can possibly forgive me," Ted said, his voice soft and tired.
"You're not asking for forgiveness. You're offering an apology. There's a difference." Stew stopped, noticing the growing din as more people filed in. "We better go."
He dug out his wallet and threw another bill on the table. "Just call him," he said, giving his best directive depth of tone.
Ted nodded at him.
Thursday, April 2, 2015
B is for Breakfast
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"You know, I never used to eat breakfast," Scott said as he watched Eric nosedive into a stack of pancakes with a combination of fascination and disgust on his face. The old man chewed with the fervor of a starving man, leaving syrup and pancake fluff dripping down his chin.
"That's the whole point of eating it now," Eric said, mouth still full.
"God, you're a slob," Ted said. As true of a statement as it was Ted would never admit to enjoying the display. Instead he would mock him relentlessly for making inappropriately happy sounds 'like a 50 dollar whore puttin' on a good show' and then chuckled when the old man called him a pervert.
Eric took a swig of coffee and swallowed hard, then slammed his cup down on the table and pointed a finger at the young man sitting across, a piece of pancake nearly flying off the fork he held.
"You never had breakfast because you were feeding your addiction, right?"
"What do you mean?" Scott asked, rubbing his arms uncomfortably. It was too warm for the sweatshirt but his track marks were too visible without it.
"You got up in the morning and, what, stuck a needle in your arm?" Ted asked.
"Y- yeah," Scott said, his head retreating into his neck as he slumped lower in the booth seat, as if he were trying to vanish.
"So that was your breakfast," Eric said, his mouth once again filled with pancake. He wiped a hand down his beard, trying to shake off excess crumbs. All it really did was serve to spread the syrup further into the thick, gray hairs. "You get into recovery, you gotta feed other things to satisfy that hunger- otherwise you'll go back to it. That's how it works."
"That what all that God stuff is about? 'Filling the spiritual hole' or some shit?" Scott asked, his hands latched to his elbows as if shielding himself from the men at the table.
"This kid's a quick study" Stew said, eying the man next to him with a studious gaze.
"In a nutshell," Eric said, leaning back against the booth and allowing his sizable gut breathing room.
"That and the fact that the whole premise of the program is the idea that you're lacking stuff that you're trying to get from drugs." Ted enjoyed watching him squirm under their support, it reminded him of himself.
"An external solution to an internal problem," Stew added. He sat with a knee up on the bench, facing the kid. His arms made a V shape with one on the back and another draped across the table, acting as a frame for his discomfort.
Scott sighed, and his chest deflated again. "I swear it's too early in the morning for you people."
"Don't think about it too much," Ted said dismissively. "Just go to your meetings, call us and get yourself a temporary sponsor."
"And what the heck is that all about, anyway?" Scott asked, this time his voice raised and a bit of his personality seeped into words.
"It's about you not knowing everything there is to know," Eric said, narrowing his eyes at him and leaning in to say the next. "Your best thinking got you here, remember?"
"Go easy on him or you'll scare him off, ya big bear," Stew said, and made a shooing motion at him with his hand.
"Yeah, well," he said as he reached into his pocket for his wallet. He groaned as he stretched back to access the back of his pants and the bench seat groaned back at him in protest. "I gotta get going anyway. You need a ride?"
"Um, yeah- if- if you're going that way," Scott said, looking at the money he threw on the table with a longing glance.
"No prob, kid," Eric said and got up with another groan. "Well, gentlemen- I take my leave of you," he said as he faced them, and bowed with a formality that his large, clumsy stature would not allow.
"You're full of it," Ted laughed.
Eric flicked him the finger as he turned and strode off and Scott followed with the same slumped shoulders and folded arms he'd cradled himself in throughout the meal.
The two remaining men watched them walk out and then Ted returned to his coffee and stirred.
Stew turned back around in his seat to face his friend and lowered his eyebrows at him. "So," he began, "you make the call?"
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
"You know, I never used to eat breakfast," Scott said as he watched Eric nosedive into a stack of pancakes with a combination of fascination and disgust on his face. The old man chewed with the fervor of a starving man, leaving syrup and pancake fluff dripping down his chin.
"That's the whole point of eating it now," Eric said, mouth still full.
"God, you're a slob," Ted said. As true of a statement as it was Ted would never admit to enjoying the display. Instead he would mock him relentlessly for making inappropriately happy sounds 'like a 50 dollar whore puttin' on a good show' and then chuckled when the old man called him a pervert.
Eric took a swig of coffee and swallowed hard, then slammed his cup down on the table and pointed a finger at the young man sitting across, a piece of pancake nearly flying off the fork he held.
"You never had breakfast because you were feeding your addiction, right?"
"What do you mean?" Scott asked, rubbing his arms uncomfortably. It was too warm for the sweatshirt but his track marks were too visible without it.
"You got up in the morning and, what, stuck a needle in your arm?" Ted asked.
"Y- yeah," Scott said, his head retreating into his neck as he slumped lower in the booth seat, as if he were trying to vanish.
"So that was your breakfast," Eric said, his mouth once again filled with pancake. He wiped a hand down his beard, trying to shake off excess crumbs. All it really did was serve to spread the syrup further into the thick, gray hairs. "You get into recovery, you gotta feed other things to satisfy that hunger- otherwise you'll go back to it. That's how it works."
"That what all that God stuff is about? 'Filling the spiritual hole' or some shit?" Scott asked, his hands latched to his elbows as if shielding himself from the men at the table.
"This kid's a quick study" Stew said, eying the man next to him with a studious gaze.
"In a nutshell," Eric said, leaning back against the booth and allowing his sizable gut breathing room.
"That and the fact that the whole premise of the program is the idea that you're lacking stuff that you're trying to get from drugs." Ted enjoyed watching him squirm under their support, it reminded him of himself.
"An external solution to an internal problem," Stew added. He sat with a knee up on the bench, facing the kid. His arms made a V shape with one on the back and another draped across the table, acting as a frame for his discomfort.
Scott sighed, and his chest deflated again. "I swear it's too early in the morning for you people."
"Don't think about it too much," Ted said dismissively. "Just go to your meetings, call us and get yourself a temporary sponsor."
"And what the heck is that all about, anyway?" Scott asked, this time his voice raised and a bit of his personality seeped into words.
"It's about you not knowing everything there is to know," Eric said, narrowing his eyes at him and leaning in to say the next. "Your best thinking got you here, remember?"
"Go easy on him or you'll scare him off, ya big bear," Stew said, and made a shooing motion at him with his hand.
"Yeah, well," he said as he reached into his pocket for his wallet. He groaned as he stretched back to access the back of his pants and the bench seat groaned back at him in protest. "I gotta get going anyway. You need a ride?"
"Um, yeah- if- if you're going that way," Scott said, looking at the money he threw on the table with a longing glance.
"No prob, kid," Eric said and got up with another groan. "Well, gentlemen- I take my leave of you," he said as he faced them, and bowed with a formality that his large, clumsy stature would not allow.
"You're full of it," Ted laughed.
Eric flicked him the finger as he turned and strode off and Scott followed with the same slumped shoulders and folded arms he'd cradled himself in throughout the meal.
The two remaining men watched them walk out and then Ted returned to his coffee and stirred.
Stew turned back around in his seat to face his friend and lowered his eyebrows at him. "So," he began, "you make the call?"
Wednesday, April 1, 2015
A is for Al's American
Scenes from an American Diner: A Story in 26 Parts
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
On route 104, out near the casino, there's a building shaped like an air hanger. It's a perfect example of the kind of thing they used to make at the iron factory when it was in full-scale operation. The long, half cylinder catches the sunlight as it rises over the hill behind and tends to blind drivers as they make their way down the crowded road during rush hour. Like most of the buildings in the area, this one has a story.
Back in the day, as people usually start the story, the place was a hole in the wall. The owner Al believed in good old fashioned food and none of the glitz and glamor that so-called "trendy chains" touted. Items on the menu had simple names like "eggs and grits" or "burger" or "coffee". It was open for breakfast and lunch, never dinner. And for the most part the only people who went there were the ones who worked at the factory.
The diner was part of a bustling industry back then, providing food to the workers who got up at the crack of dawn and exited at the whistle blow to return to their simple homes. Some sentimental idiot would probably describe it as a history lesson in Americana. But the real history was better told by an economist.
In the factory's heyday, business was good. Things were simple, or so everybody liked to claim. The American identity etched in time cards punched and receipts given. But the world changed while the factory remained, a pillar of old values that would be worn away by the turning tide.
At first it was just small rumblings of fear. Questions about foreign markets picking back up in the years since the war had ended. Then raised voices and arguments about pensions bleeding the paychecks of those still working. Panic inducing words like 'Restructuring'. And finally, the inevitable shut-down. In the end, silence.
With its patronage cut-off the diner, like the rest of the town, was dying. A random stranger wandering in to ask directions on the way to a living town. Holes in the drop ceiling with brown stains on the edges from leaky plumbing overhead went unrepaired. Food orders going uneaten and the menu whittling down to almost nothing. When the old electrical wiring caught fire and burned down half the building a lot of people assumed Al had torched the place himself, just to collect on the insurance.
For years the site was empty, a burned out hunk of metal in a desolate landscape. And then, like it always does, change came. Some big investors bought the old factory, knocked down the blast furnaces, and built a casino there. Then the outlets came. And the concert hall. And the streets surrounding it started featuring all those trendy little shops that Al would have hated so much if he had still been around.
Some big business bought the burnt-out piece of metal. And, like they had with the factory, left the outside intact while completely rebuilding the interior. By time the "All American Diner" opened up in the mid 2000's it served as s replica of oh-so-many chains sprouting up all over the country. Posters of Rosie the riveter and airplane propellers on the wall. An old jukebox that loud little kids poured quarters into while asking their parents who the heck "Tommy Dorsey" was. A Bethlehem Steel sign over the back door, almost as if the whole thing was a cruel joke.
Those old enough to remember when the towers still billowed steam hated the place and angrily spat at it as they walked by on their way to the clubhouse. But there simply weren't that many places around to buy a cheap cup of coffee anymore, and life was just too damned hard to drive 5 blocks to the Dunkin' Donuts.
So they called in "Al's American" to pay homage to the old man and on Sundays after morning sanity the old heads filed in to sip their mud and talk patience. And it was here that Ted Wilson sat, with Stew and Eric and the new guy Scott, waiting for a miracle.
All of us have had our lives touched in some way by the disease of addiction. Be it a loved one, friend, family member or even ourselves no one is immune to the impact of this devastating illness. This story is dedicated to all of those people, especially the ones who have found recovery through the 12 step fellowship.
On route 104, out near the casino, there's a building shaped like an air hanger. It's a perfect example of the kind of thing they used to make at the iron factory when it was in full-scale operation. The long, half cylinder catches the sunlight as it rises over the hill behind and tends to blind drivers as they make their way down the crowded road during rush hour. Like most of the buildings in the area, this one has a story.
Back in the day, as people usually start the story, the place was a hole in the wall. The owner Al believed in good old fashioned food and none of the glitz and glamor that so-called "trendy chains" touted. Items on the menu had simple names like "eggs and grits" or "burger" or "coffee". It was open for breakfast and lunch, never dinner. And for the most part the only people who went there were the ones who worked at the factory.
The diner was part of a bustling industry back then, providing food to the workers who got up at the crack of dawn and exited at the whistle blow to return to their simple homes. Some sentimental idiot would probably describe it as a history lesson in Americana. But the real history was better told by an economist.
In the factory's heyday, business was good. Things were simple, or so everybody liked to claim. The American identity etched in time cards punched and receipts given. But the world changed while the factory remained, a pillar of old values that would be worn away by the turning tide.
At first it was just small rumblings of fear. Questions about foreign markets picking back up in the years since the war had ended. Then raised voices and arguments about pensions bleeding the paychecks of those still working. Panic inducing words like 'Restructuring'. And finally, the inevitable shut-down. In the end, silence.
With its patronage cut-off the diner, like the rest of the town, was dying. A random stranger wandering in to ask directions on the way to a living town. Holes in the drop ceiling with brown stains on the edges from leaky plumbing overhead went unrepaired. Food orders going uneaten and the menu whittling down to almost nothing. When the old electrical wiring caught fire and burned down half the building a lot of people assumed Al had torched the place himself, just to collect on the insurance.
For years the site was empty, a burned out hunk of metal in a desolate landscape. And then, like it always does, change came. Some big investors bought the old factory, knocked down the blast furnaces, and built a casino there. Then the outlets came. And the concert hall. And the streets surrounding it started featuring all those trendy little shops that Al would have hated so much if he had still been around.
Some big business bought the burnt-out piece of metal. And, like they had with the factory, left the outside intact while completely rebuilding the interior. By time the "All American Diner" opened up in the mid 2000's it served as s replica of oh-so-many chains sprouting up all over the country. Posters of Rosie the riveter and airplane propellers on the wall. An old jukebox that loud little kids poured quarters into while asking their parents who the heck "Tommy Dorsey" was. A Bethlehem Steel sign over the back door, almost as if the whole thing was a cruel joke.
Those old enough to remember when the towers still billowed steam hated the place and angrily spat at it as they walked by on their way to the clubhouse. But there simply weren't that many places around to buy a cheap cup of coffee anymore, and life was just too damned hard to drive 5 blocks to the Dunkin' Donuts.
So they called in "Al's American" to pay homage to the old man and on Sundays after morning sanity the old heads filed in to sip their mud and talk patience. And it was here that Ted Wilson sat, with Stew and Eric and the new guy Scott, waiting for a miracle.
Friday, March 27, 2015
Celebrate the Small Things- March 27th
Hi! So, as you may have noticed, I haven't participated in this blog hop for a LOOOOOOOONNNG time. And oddly enough, I'm not going to be participating in it for a little while longer because next Friday and the following three after that I'll be posting letters for the A to Z Challenge instead of these posts. But I will posting on at least a few of those Sundays to let you all know what I'm up to outside of trying to compose a 26 part story. Like next Saturday, for example, I have a big race that I'm certainly going to want to tell you about (and to show you pictures of).
At any rate, all of that goes to lead to the first thing I'm celebrating this week:
WRITING I'm writing again! Fingers to keyboard, reading over Wikipedia articles, scraping and rewriting sentences- the whole nine! It's been so incredibly long since I've written fiction that I'm honestly still a little shocked that I know how to do it. I never thought I'd lost it altogether, but I did start to wonder about "if" rather than "when", to be perfectly honest. It's just been so long since I'd had any desire whatsoever I'm totally out-of-mind excited to be doing it again.
Those of you who are also doing the challenge please come by and read- if I pull this thing off it'll be nothing short-of epic. And I will be visiting as many of you as I can each day to see the awesome stuff you're writing!
RUNNING As mentioned, I am still running and I had a rather large milestone last Saturday that I'm still geeking out about.
3rd place! I've never placed in a race before! How cool is that?!?
I'm trying not to lose the win in the context- like the fact that it snowed the day before so a whole lot of (presumably faster) people looked at their windows and went 'Hell no!" which left me to move up as I ran through 3 inches of snow. But that's the cool part after all, isn't it? I ran in the effing snow! And I got 3rd place for doing it. I don't care what the context, that's still awesome. I'm thrilled.I've got to get outside at least a couple of times before next Saturday because I have my first-ever 15K coming up which looks to be freaking awesome- they give us chocolate when we cross the finish line! So like I said, I'll definitely be posting pictures of that.
LOVE My very good friend from college who I get to see all of ONCE a year even though she doesn't live nearly far enough away to justify that rare of a visit (don't we all friends like that?) is having a baby in a couple of months. Given that she will be swallowed by the chaos of newborn care-taking after that happens I talked her in to a quickie visit before her due date for some last minute baby-free talk and hang-out time. I connected with her over Skype last night and I have to say that I just freaking LOVE her.
It helps that she is mother incarnate at the moment with that whole glow-thing going on and you can tell from the smile on her face that she's never been so thrilled about any endeavor she's ever undertaken before and it's just miraculous to see. I'm so psyched to be seeing her and her wonderful hubby in a couple of weeks, I can't wait!
Happy Friday, everyone! Looking forward to seeing you all during the A to Z challenge!
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
A Writer Again, Suddenly
It’s a feeling I haven’t had in quite some time- that
nagging at the edges of awareness, that faint voice in the back of your head
that won’t go away, those intrusive thoughts that interrupt your train of
consciousness and make you realize that you’ve missed the reality of the past
few moments- the words spoken, the light in the room, the shifting body of the
person next you. It’s been happening to
me more and more lately forcing me to realize that there’s action to be taken
if I hope to avoid continually slipping out of the moment and missing all those
things.
A story. A story must
be written.
Like most stories, it’s been in my brain for a long while
now. First as an idea, just a flash of
brilliance easily forgotten. But then
the words and images that get caught in the web it weaves in your
thoughts. Moments, phrases,
descriptions. All these getting caught
in that sticky netting and becoming a barrier, a blockage to the regular train
of thought.
I was at a concert on Saturday night, a really great
one. And I was angry to find that I’d
missed some music because my mind got caught in that web again. Then last night in the shower I washed my
hair twice, not realizing until the second lather that I’d been composing
sentences in my head rather than scrubbing.
That was it- I’d finally had enough.
So I sat down at my computer, and I wrote. I opened up a Wikipedia page which invariably
led to two others. I looked through pictures
on Google images. I poured out
paragraphs which, of course, were terrible and ill-formed on re-read. But they were there. Typed words in my word document. An undeniable story that would be brought
into existence by me. Before I knew it it
was one o’clock in the morning. I haven’t
gotten caught up in writing like that since the last NaNoWriMo I participated
in- over a year and a half ago.
When I really look at it, I realize that I barely did any
writing at all in almost the entirety of last year. Sure, I celebrated some accomplishments on
Friday blog hops. I did 26 entries in
April on the history of Tang Soo Do. I
wrote about my running, a lot.
In actuality I realize that running has sort-of replaced writing
in my life. Partially because it was new
to me, I had a whole lot of firsts last year and I’m still having them (I won
my first medal in a 5K this past Saturday- Third Place in my age bracket). And partially because it’s so much more
definable. When you run, there’s undeniable
proof that you’ve run. A GPS map on the
running app showing you your distance. A
runner’s bib verifying your participation in a race. A medal that I proudly display on my wall. It’s real, measurable, concrete. Unlike writing which still seems so ethereal sometimes-
words on the paper that my inner critic dismisses so easily, even after all
these years.
But fiction- a story I composed, characters I created. Details and settings and emotions and tiny
little elements of memory that breathe life into the sentences- I haven’t done
that in so long I honestly can’t remember.
Until last night.
So I did something crazy.
I went and signed up for the April A to Z challenge. Sure, I’m number five thousand and whatever,
at the bottom of the list. And sure, I’ve
now put an awful lot of pressure on myself to get 26 entries out of this story,
not to mention a coherent narrative that connects each snippet of scene and
dialogue. And yeah, it could all blow up
in my face so easily. But I’m writing
again. And I’m pretty damned thrilled
about it.
I know that I haven’t existed in the blogosphere for so long
that people who used to frequent this site have all but forgotten about
me. And I know I’ll have to re-earn
every follower by reading and commenting and giving before I can reasonably
expect anyone to come back here. And I
know that half the point of the April challenge, if not the majority of the
point, is visiting and commenting rather than writing yourself. But I
want to do both. I NEED to do both. It’s been far too long since I’ve done this,
any of this.
So I know I missed the big theme reveal. And I know that probably only two or three
people are gonna read this anyway. But I’m
saying it more to myself than anyone who may happen to read these words. I'm declaring it, so I'll have to do it.
I’m writing a story.
In 26 parts. For the April A to Z
Challenge, my contribution:
Scenes From An American Diner
Stay tuned…
Better late than never...
Tuesday, January 6, 2015
Two Movie Reviews
Without planning to, I ended up watching a couple of films this
weekend which I loved so much that I just have to say a few words about
each of them. It was a completely unexpected coincidence that they both
happened to deal with the subject of grief, which is why I deemed it
appropriate to include them in the same entry.
Fist up, a new story by my absolute favorite filmmaker of all time: Zach Braff.
I first encountered the genius that is Zach Braff in 2004 when I saw what became my favorite film of all time: Garden State.
That movie effected me more than anything else I've seen. And while I
can't say that this film replaced it in the pantheon of film gods I will
definitely say I'll be housing it in the same temple in my heart.
Braff's familiar style is all over this movie: the characters desperately trying to make their way through life's seemingly meaningless pain, the strikingly honest dialogue, the visually stunning vistas as characters look out on their world and, of course, the award-winning soundtrack.
And it deals with similar subject matter: the concepts of family, identity and grief. Here the main character is an almost middle-aged man struggling with a career that didn't pan out, a wife struggling to keep the family together and a father whose cancer has returned with a death knell. Braff portrays a lot of the same issues with this character as he did with Garden State: a conflicted and rich relationship with his father, a pure and authentic love for his significant other and uncertainty about who he is supposed to be. Here he has the added roles of brother and father and he pulls off both wonderfully. The primary difference here is that while Andrew Largeman was trying to find home Aidan Bloom is trying to hold his together.
The trailers I've seen have all sold this movie as a journey of self discovery but what it really focuses on is grief- Aidan's father is dying and regardless of what else is going on here that is the primary story. It plays into his career (after all, a father is supposed to provide for his family) and his relationship with his children (wanting to do for them what his father failed to do for him while still building their grandfather's legacy and teaching them about his life) and certainly who he is as a man who was raised by this person- but all of that is related to the fast-approaching loss.
Mandy Patinkin is, as always, incredible as the ailing patriarch and brings oceans of depth to this father struggling to make amends with his sons before dying. Kate Hudson is the best that I've ever seen her in any film and portrays the mother of this family with disarming honesty. (I also think that character was written brilliantly and Braff did a fantastic job of portraying the pushes and pulls that matriarchs struggle with).
But the most fantastic performance by far was one that I didn't expect: Josh Gad portrays Noah, Aidan's younger brother who has failed to really launch and lives an isolated life after the death of their mother whom he was more close to anyone else. Noah and his father have been estranged for over a year due to his father's criticism of him and he fights Aidan's requests to go visit him because of this. There's a pivotal scene near the end when Aidan's daughter begs Noah to go see her grandfather and he almost magically transforms into a frightened child before our eyes. There are few moments in movie history that so clearly capture the fear and helplessness one faces when confronted with death and he did it breathtakingly.
In the end, I deeply adored this movie. It'll be a favorite of mine held in the highest regard for many years to come.
Next up: Wild.
This movie comes from a book of the same title (which of course I have to read now) by a woman named Cheryl Strayed
who overcame life-altering grief by hiking 1,100 miles on the Pacific
Crest trail. (Since I haven't read the book yet keep in mind that this
review is exclusively about the movie.)
This movie was extremely similar in style to another movie I loved modeled after another fantastic book: Into the Wild. They deal with similar subject matter- both portraying individuals surviving in the wilderness alone with little to no training after suffering from various traumas. The primary difference is that while the protagonist of Into the Wild dies due to his inexperience Cheryl Strayed lives to tell her tale and subsequently it is one of triumph rather than tragedy.
I don't mean to make it sound that similar- Strayed was on a relatively well-traveled path with frequent meet-ups with civilization where she received a great deal of assistance while McCandless went out into the uncharted wilderness alone with express intent of never meeting up with anyone. (I.E. there are very obvious reasons why Strayed lived and McCandless died.) But story-telling wise they're very similar- the current story is interspersed with flashbacks of the past explaining why the characters are on the journey they're on.
I went into this movie thinking that the main character was trying to recover from a failed marriage and struggling to reinvent herself after that. In actuality, while her marriage did in fact fail that was a result of her grief after her mother, whom she titled 'the love of my life', died suddenly from cancer. Her loss was so overwhelming that she lost herself in both heroin and sexual addiction as a result of it and didn't emerge until several years and a divorce later at which time she concluded that in order to heal she needed to get some time away from her life to make sense of it all. Why did she take that time on the Pacific Crest Trail? Because her mother had taught her that one needs to put themselves "in the way of beauty" and she couldn't think of a better place to find that.
This movie struck several chords with me. On a superficial level, I enjoyed some of the difficulties of backpacking portrayed- I too have walked with a 70 pound pack on my back, eaten "cold mush" for multiple meals due to a stove not working properly, been pained by bruised hips and slept in tents in less-than-ideal conditions. While she did it alone for 1,100 miles I did it with a group for less than 30. But still, familiar.
On a deeper level, I responded to the idea that when faced with inescapably quiet moments one will face down some of the darkest moments of memory and come out (due to a lot of willpower) stronger because of it. And that's really what this movie is about- it isn't the hike itself that serves to force her to face her past, it's her isolation. Her alone on the trail with nothing but her own thoughts to occupy her. And while her personal struggles to overcome the extreme hardships of the epic hike certainly shape her what really heals her is willingness to come face to face with her darkness and forgive herself for it. This movie does a fantastic job of portraying that.
Or course Reese Witherspoon did a fantastic portrayal of Cheryl and I'm gonna go ahead and call her nomination for best actress as a given. Laura Dern gave the best performance of the film as her mother, though. Though she's only in a few frames she pumps so much life into Cheryl's mother that it's easy to see why the loss of that woman could destroy a person. I know Jean-Marc Vallée from Dallas Buyers Club but I must say I appreciate him a thousand times more here because the film plays the way one imagines the true experience would with Cheryl's memories coming on in flashes, sometimes overwhelmingly intense, but always without purposeful recollection. It feels really organic in that way.
The other folks she meets on the trail, the breathtaking landscapes she encounters and the full breaths she takes of what is clearly renewing air round out the cast here and all of them hold full weight whenever they're on screen. It was a masterfully done piece on the whole.
I plan to read the book at some point before the year passes because one imagines that if the movie is this good the source must be that much more powerful. (Plus a friend of mine said she read it and loved it and I totally trust her judgement.) So I'm gonna go ahead and recommend both.
Fist up, a new story by my absolute favorite filmmaker of all time: Zach Braff.
Braff's familiar style is all over this movie: the characters desperately trying to make their way through life's seemingly meaningless pain, the strikingly honest dialogue, the visually stunning vistas as characters look out on their world and, of course, the award-winning soundtrack.
And it deals with similar subject matter: the concepts of family, identity and grief. Here the main character is an almost middle-aged man struggling with a career that didn't pan out, a wife struggling to keep the family together and a father whose cancer has returned with a death knell. Braff portrays a lot of the same issues with this character as he did with Garden State: a conflicted and rich relationship with his father, a pure and authentic love for his significant other and uncertainty about who he is supposed to be. Here he has the added roles of brother and father and he pulls off both wonderfully. The primary difference here is that while Andrew Largeman was trying to find home Aidan Bloom is trying to hold his together.
The trailers I've seen have all sold this movie as a journey of self discovery but what it really focuses on is grief- Aidan's father is dying and regardless of what else is going on here that is the primary story. It plays into his career (after all, a father is supposed to provide for his family) and his relationship with his children (wanting to do for them what his father failed to do for him while still building their grandfather's legacy and teaching them about his life) and certainly who he is as a man who was raised by this person- but all of that is related to the fast-approaching loss.
Mandy Patinkin is, as always, incredible as the ailing patriarch and brings oceans of depth to this father struggling to make amends with his sons before dying. Kate Hudson is the best that I've ever seen her in any film and portrays the mother of this family with disarming honesty. (I also think that character was written brilliantly and Braff did a fantastic job of portraying the pushes and pulls that matriarchs struggle with).
But the most fantastic performance by far was one that I didn't expect: Josh Gad portrays Noah, Aidan's younger brother who has failed to really launch and lives an isolated life after the death of their mother whom he was more close to anyone else. Noah and his father have been estranged for over a year due to his father's criticism of him and he fights Aidan's requests to go visit him because of this. There's a pivotal scene near the end when Aidan's daughter begs Noah to go see her grandfather and he almost magically transforms into a frightened child before our eyes. There are few moments in movie history that so clearly capture the fear and helplessness one faces when confronted with death and he did it breathtakingly.
In the end, I deeply adored this movie. It'll be a favorite of mine held in the highest regard for many years to come.
Next up: Wild.
This movie was extremely similar in style to another movie I loved modeled after another fantastic book: Into the Wild. They deal with similar subject matter- both portraying individuals surviving in the wilderness alone with little to no training after suffering from various traumas. The primary difference is that while the protagonist of Into the Wild dies due to his inexperience Cheryl Strayed lives to tell her tale and subsequently it is one of triumph rather than tragedy.
I don't mean to make it sound that similar- Strayed was on a relatively well-traveled path with frequent meet-ups with civilization where she received a great deal of assistance while McCandless went out into the uncharted wilderness alone with express intent of never meeting up with anyone. (I.E. there are very obvious reasons why Strayed lived and McCandless died.) But story-telling wise they're very similar- the current story is interspersed with flashbacks of the past explaining why the characters are on the journey they're on.
I went into this movie thinking that the main character was trying to recover from a failed marriage and struggling to reinvent herself after that. In actuality, while her marriage did in fact fail that was a result of her grief after her mother, whom she titled 'the love of my life', died suddenly from cancer. Her loss was so overwhelming that she lost herself in both heroin and sexual addiction as a result of it and didn't emerge until several years and a divorce later at which time she concluded that in order to heal she needed to get some time away from her life to make sense of it all. Why did she take that time on the Pacific Crest Trail? Because her mother had taught her that one needs to put themselves "in the way of beauty" and she couldn't think of a better place to find that.
This movie struck several chords with me. On a superficial level, I enjoyed some of the difficulties of backpacking portrayed- I too have walked with a 70 pound pack on my back, eaten "cold mush" for multiple meals due to a stove not working properly, been pained by bruised hips and slept in tents in less-than-ideal conditions. While she did it alone for 1,100 miles I did it with a group for less than 30. But still, familiar.
On a deeper level, I responded to the idea that when faced with inescapably quiet moments one will face down some of the darkest moments of memory and come out (due to a lot of willpower) stronger because of it. And that's really what this movie is about- it isn't the hike itself that serves to force her to face her past, it's her isolation. Her alone on the trail with nothing but her own thoughts to occupy her. And while her personal struggles to overcome the extreme hardships of the epic hike certainly shape her what really heals her is willingness to come face to face with her darkness and forgive herself for it. This movie does a fantastic job of portraying that.
Or course Reese Witherspoon did a fantastic portrayal of Cheryl and I'm gonna go ahead and call her nomination for best actress as a given. Laura Dern gave the best performance of the film as her mother, though. Though she's only in a few frames she pumps so much life into Cheryl's mother that it's easy to see why the loss of that woman could destroy a person. I know Jean-Marc Vallée from Dallas Buyers Club but I must say I appreciate him a thousand times more here because the film plays the way one imagines the true experience would with Cheryl's memories coming on in flashes, sometimes overwhelmingly intense, but always without purposeful recollection. It feels really organic in that way.
The other folks she meets on the trail, the breathtaking landscapes she encounters and the full breaths she takes of what is clearly renewing air round out the cast here and all of them hold full weight whenever they're on screen. It was a masterfully done piece on the whole.
I plan to read the book at some point before the year passes because one imagines that if the movie is this good the source must be that much more powerful. (Plus a friend of mine said she read it and loved it and I totally trust her judgement.) So I'm gonna go ahead and recommend both.
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
2014 Recap (A.K.A. Where I've Been Since October)
I want to start this entry by apologizing to all of the truly
wonderful folks who used to follow this blog and have likely wondered where on
earth I have disappeared to over the past few months. I fully admit that I flat-out fell off the
face of the planet and if any/all of you gave up on me I completely understand
and do not blame you. In fact, if no one
ends up reading this entry because of that I get that, too. It’s mostly for me anyway. However, should you be one of those truly wonderful
folks mentioned please accept my apologies and believe me when I say that I
plan to re-earn your attention by visiting you all in the very near
future. It will take me a while to catch
up on everything you’ve all been up to, but it will be time well spent.
Now, as to where I’ve been for the past few months (which
also serves as a general re-cap for the past year which is what this entry is
all about, anyway). Ah-hem… (*Pauses,
considers, re-starts*) Actually,
wait. Let me back up a second.
In January, I had two pretty huge goals occupying my thoughts. One was personal and one was
professional. I’m going to start with
the personal since work is a whole other category altogether.
Karate
This year was the year of my 3rd Dan test (3rd degree black
belt in Tang Soo Do for anyone who hasn’t been here before). I trained for it harder than I had ever
trained for anything before. I started
working out at the gym 4 to 5 days a week, I was practicing forms at least
three times a week and anytime I wasn’t actively practicing something I was
thinking about it. I breathed it for months and months. This is partly why I performed as well as I
did in our home tournament in April.
It’s also why when I finally took the test in June I did as
well as I did. I don’t want to say that
the test was easy because it really wasn’t.
But I will say it was significantly less difficult than what I was
anticipating and what I had trained for.
I was still proud of myself, certainly.
But because I had trained so hard and because it had occupied so much of
my thoughts for so long I was sort-of let down when it ended.
I woke up the day after feeling really depressed and the
nagging question that sparked this feeling was “Now what?” After such an epic accomplishment, what do I
do now? My 4th dan test is 4
years away- I couldn’t just wait around for another 4 years. And that had been such a focal point in my
life that I felt lost with it finished.
Now what?
The answer is what leads to the number two big
accomplishment on my list- the one I didn’t see coming.
Running
I relayed those feelings and that question to a friend of
mine. This friend was and is a runner. So he suggested to me, upon hearing me
express this, that I do the same. It was
a very simple question: “Why don’t you try running?”
I had an answer for him.
“I’m not a runner,” I said. I’d
always hated running. I mean, I joined
the track team in high school and hated it so much that I quit in a single
week. That was how much I hated running.
“Well, yeah,” he said, “but aren’t you different now?” Yeah, I guessed I was. “And weren’t you just saying that you trained
harder for this than you ever had for anything in your life?” Yes, I certainly had. “And aren’t you in the best shape you’ve ever
been in?” Well, I guessed so. “So it might be way easier for you now. You should try it,” he concluded. I didn’t really have any good arguments
against that line of logic.
So I tried it. One
day at the gym, after one of my regular classes, I hopped on the treadmill just
to give it a try. I ran a full 5k
without losing my breath. All that
training really had amounted to something.
So I started signing up for races- 5ks, in the
beginning. The first one was hard
because I wasn’t used to running outside.
But it was also REALLY fun. So I
started running outside and I signed up for more. Then I signed up for my first 10k. That was even more fun. Then, finally, the huge unexpected goal: the
half marathon.
I trained harder for it than I had for my 3rd Dan
test. It was at least a hundred times more difficult than my 3rd Dan test.
And I was and am more proud of myself than I have ever been before in my entire
life.
I had never dreamed that I would be a runner. In fact, it still sometimes baffles me that I
am one now. But having run my first half
marathon and almost immediately concluded that a full marathon absolutely must
be crossed off my bucket list I can’t really argue with the label anymore. It was my biggest accomplishment of 2014, by
far.
Work
This is the other area of my life where I ended up
accomplishing an unexpected goal. I
started out the year as a counselor and leader of an intensive outpatient
program for mental health. I loved my
job almost from the get go. It wasn’t
the work itself, at first. It was my
amazing co-workers. It was the level of freedom I had. The money certainly helped. But over time, it became about the work
itself. For the first time in my entire
career I felt like I was really using my education (which is a GREAT feeling
when you’re still paying monthly installments on said education.)
I am now a clinical supervisor in charge of all the drug and
alcohol counselors in the office. That
was the unexpected part.
One staff meeting, out of nowhere, my boss announced that
she was leaving and would be going to another office. My boss had been the clinical supervisor as
well as the site director (the latter position was taken over by my favorite
co-worker.) This left her morning drug
and alcohol (henceforward referred to as D&A) intensive outpatient group
open. (I’ve been leading the evening
mental health group all year. The
schedule has not been ideal, in many ways.)
So I went for it.
I didn’t actually know, in all honesty, when I applied for
the position that it included not only the morning group but also the clinical
supervisor role. I found out right in
the middle of the interview. I surprised
myself when I said, with the utmost confidence, I can do that.
‘Could I really?’ I questioned myself. The answer was yes, I really thought I
could. I have more experience in D&A
than I do in mental health. I’ve had
lots of interns I supervised over the years.
My organizational skills are good to enough to put me in charge of chart
audits and things of that nature. Yes- I
really could.
I told them this in the interview. I got the job. I never saw it coming.
After years and years and years of feeling stagnant and
frustrated with my chosen career I had started a new job and been promoted in
less than a year. Finally all my hard
work- which I have been doing all this time- paid off. It’s an amazing feeling.
(I don't have any pictures for this one, sorry!)
The only downside to this promotion- which I do genuinely believe
I will be truly good at once I actually have the time to do it- is that they
couldn’t find someone to take over my evening group right away. So for the past two months I’ve been working
12 to 13 hour days… 4 days a week… every week.
In the morning I go in and run the D&A group. Then I see individual clients and hold supervision
with the other clinicians. At some point
I run home to walk my dog and then race traffic to get back in time for the
evening group. On Fridays, even though I’m
usually well over my 40 hours by then, I go in from 9 to 3 to do individual sessions
and try to catch up on all the paperwork I’ve fallen behind on during the
week. Then I leave early to get to the one
karate class I can still do with my insane schedule. And thus why I’ve fallen off the face of the
planet.
I’m not happy that both reading and writing have fallen by
the wayside in the face of work commitments and running. But that is, obviously, what happened. I am hoping, however, that that will change
soon.
They hired someone to take over my evening group. He starts next week. I’ll be sticking to the old schedule for a
while until he’s trained and comfortable running the group on his own. But I’m hopeful that won’t be long. Once he takes over I should be able to keep
most evenings free. I’ll be able to go
back to karate on Tuesday nights. I’ll
be able- and this is the amazing part- to come home before 10pm most weeknights.
I hope and expect that I’ll be able to run and read and write again
during those evenings. That would be miraculous.
Because 2014 has held so many unexpected developments for me
I’m not even going to bother to set goals for 2015. I have some general ideas of what I’d like to
see happen- the above mentioned activities, of course. And if I happen to run a full marathon, or
publish a story, or kick ass in a karate tournament that would all be
great. But for now I’m content to bask
in the thrill of all this year has brought my way. It’s been the best one I’ve had in a while.
Happy New Year. And
my best to all of you in 2015.
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